2016年11月12日星期六

WEDNESDAY.

Today is 9th of November 2016.




It is my fifth month studying abroad in New Zealand, and there were ups and downs throughout these months, but I'm proudly to say that I'm able to survive from those chaos. 






I could still remember vividly when the moment I left Malaysia and taking flights all the way to Dunedin by myself, those uncertainties and insecurity just surged up within my mind - I didn't know if I could understand the Kiwi accent since that was my first time going to a Western country, I didn't know if I could be able to adapt to the culture, I didn't know if I had the ability to bear the high workloads in University so on and so forth. To be honest, I was perplexed by all the uneasiness. Yet, I was still trying my very best to calm myself down. 

Oh yeah! I also remembered when I first got down from the flight to Dunedin, I was feeling unwell because of gastric and a little of motion sickness from the long-hours flight, but I still had to settle all the stuffs like collecting key from the UniFlats office, and "socializing" with the driver OMG. Furthermore, I thrown up on the same night due to stomach gastric, yeah, that pretty much sums up my first night in Dunedin. That was the moment when I realized "I'm alone now like seriously, there is no one there for me, no roommates, no fam, nothing". I used to puke occasionally back in Malaysia, but I was so blessed, there were roommates or housemates who would send me warm water, passed me medicine or checked out on me every now and then just to make sure everything is fine. I missed those moments when I have someone to rely on, and not to worry about dying in the room alone. 

Before coming to Dunedin, I got no idea how does homesickness feel like, I guess that might be because I used to live quite near from home even I studied in another state (less than an hour drive to home), but this time, I know how it feels. It is something that you have no control at all, plus there will be any random stuff or moment which is able to elevate homesickness with no effort, it's also something that might cause you to sob at those lonely quiet nights. Fortunately, I have my boyfriend with me who would Facetime with me every night, sooth my anxious and back me up. 



As time goes by, I am accustoming to the environment and culture over here and experiencing less and less culture shocks nowadays. Not to forget mention that I was craving for foods in Malaysia like nasi lemak, curry mee, my favorite teh halia, different kinds of tarts (my all time favorite!) from time to time in the beginning but I think I kinda get used to the limited choices of foods here now. Oh no, actually I still have a strong craving for particular foods (just never get over them) :P. My boyfriend keens to tell me to make my own foods that I'm craving for, but.... it's different. I know I can make them, but just, it's not the same with the one that I had in Malaysia, or maybe I just miss home.  

I think the worst part of studying abroad for me is not about dealing with the overwhelming food craving, it's about dealing with people and school. I could still reminiscent that I was so confused on the accents of various lecturers during the first few weeks of school. There was one lecturer whose origin country is Ireland, he has a very strong Irish accent OMG (but he is a very nice guy, he treated us with the highest respect and he was extremely helpful in literally everything), I had to pay lots of attention to fully understand what was he talking about, plus, it makes everything more difficult because English is not my mother tongue. He would pronounce LEFT as LIFT, seriously, I got no idea what was that at first, everything just did not make sense to me. Nonetheless, I do realize that the efforts that I had to pay on his lecturers were gradually decrease, it provides me an indicator that I do comprehend his lecturers days by days :P. Oh yeah! There was a lecturer that I must not forget to bring over here! So basically, he was the lecturer for my COMPARATIVE COGNITION (comparing intelligence between animals and human beings), it is no doubt that he offered the worst slides ever (there's no way that you can imagine), he did not do lecture recordings, he spoke real fast and he had the toughest examination on earth. *I think I have to emphasize on his lecture slides. When I say he gave shit slides, I do mean it. So, there were 10++ experiments regarding to a particular topic that we had to memorize (this subject is all about experiments on a variety of animals like testing their verbal intelligence or numerical competence), he basically only put a super short tittle for each experiment and graphs for the results part, THAT'S ALL! and you know what would be coming out on examination? 

(i) Details of the experiments (types of animals and materials used) 
(ii) Procedures of the experiments
(iii) Detailed results 
(iv) Alternative interpretations for the results 
(v) Possible improvements to be made

He expected us to provide profound answers on examination with very limited information given in the slides, so NO CLASS SKIPPING is allowed. Comparative Cognition is the ONLY subject that I attended EVERY SINGLE CLASS (I'm so proud of myself omggg haha!). Apart from that, we had three examinations (2 tests and final) in the whole semester, and we were required to write 4-5 pages for each chosen topic including all of the sub-parts that I mentioned above; plus, we had to integrate all of the experiments and analyse ourselves whether there is any species difference and historical shifts (bear in mind that these things were not taught, you have to figure out yourself). He also mentioned that this subject has the highest failure rate among the psychology papers and I know why after having the first test. Everything was just insane. Nevertheless, looking on the bright side, my critical thinking level is notably enhanced (so different when I was in HELP). In sum, everything is just about thinking critically over here. 

Besides school, I have something to talk about the flat that I was living. I was sharing with another 5 who are from US and also the Kiwis. I am so glad that I met my Kiwi host who offered help to me every single time and she was being soooooooo considerate all the time! And also desserts and Maori foods that she made for us, those were delicious and yum! :D On top of that, we were doing flat dinner throughout the semester, so each of us was responsible to take care for the dinner on one night. I had one flatmate who is from California, she made really great Mexican foods and she baked quite often for the flat as well! Ahhhhhh, I am missing her foods now! Unfortunately, she was here just for exchange so she would be going back home soon :(.  I would miss her till we meet again! By the way, I also got them Asian foods which they never tried previously like sweet and sour pork, lemon chicken, fried udon mee, rice balls, sliced garlic with honey chicken and many more. I'm so thrilled that they do love those Asian foods awww. 

My first semester in Dunedin was pretty good except for the harsh weather here. Weather in New Zealand changes super rapidly, one sec you were with your layers on but you have to take it off next sec because it was warm. It's just unpredictable, and I don't think umbrellas are useful since it can be really windy on most of the days (it would just destroy the umbrella). I still do not have the chance to wear my shorts even it's spring now, I am still able to feel the coldness at night :(. 

Ahhhhhh! This almost slipped my mind! I am so grateful I met a number of great friends here! *Sorry for jumping from point to point, but I do really want to mention this. The moments that we had together were unforgettable, we had trips on few places in New Zealand, we attended yoga or judo classes together, signed up for sea fishing trip and horse riding lessons, went to different events in Dunedin, did all sorts of crazy things, and unlocking achievements and ticking off bucket list altogether! Moreover, I also met few other helpful friends from my crochet and modern jazz classes. I was amazed by the talents and perseverance that they possessed and they did bring an impact to me which indirectly assisting me growing up throughout the journey. I do appreciate that wholeheartedly.    








I think this pretty much sums up my firsts semester in Dunedin, and I do pass by some of the other details because I think I should have stopped now and it does require strenuous effort to summarize 5 months in one blog post thou. *Hope you enjoy my long-winded grandmother stories and there will be posts coming up talking about trips in New Zealand! :)



2016年4月5日星期二

MONDAY.

Today is 5th of April 2016.

时间过得很快很快,
2016年就已经过了3个月了,
还有3个月就要离开,
很难想象离开的画面,
很怕分离,
但又如何,
每一个人终究要在某个时刻面对分离。

如果你问我,
分离的那一刻就舍不得是谁?
我真的不知道。
我不知道我那一个时刻会以一个怎样的心态去面对,
兴奋吗?还是伤心?

兴奋自己可以完成一直以来的梦想,
兴奋终于可以出去闯荡,
兴奋终于可以出去见识;

伤心是不舍得这里的人事物,
伤心的是不知道自己到底还会不会回来,
伤心的是.... 可能再也不会再见到那些我想念的人。

很珍惜现在大家相处的时候,
我会把所有的心底话都面对面地告诉大家,
因为我不想等到哪天我会遗憾没把我应该说的都说了,
我会真心的做一切就只希望可以再次见到你们的笑容,
不管那笑容是多么腼腆,还是灿烂,
至少... 让那些笑容停留在我的脑海里。
哪天我难过委屈了,
我会记得那些笑容,
那些真切真挚的笑容,
我知道那些笑容,
会再次给予我动力,
让我继续走下去。




——谢谢我人生里遇到的每个你——

2015年11月12日星期四

Thursday.

Today is 12nd of November 2015.

相隔了9個月才寫下這篇文章,也不知道爲什麽會間隔那麽久,或許是因爲最近真的有點忙。

踏入了Year 2 Semester 2,課程真的越來越難,有時真的會有點力不從心的感覺,而且又要同時兼顧工作還有學習,真的是一件不容易的事情。早上上完課基本上都會有meeting,開完會后當然就是趕回家做功課,做完功課就要準備晚餐給Housemates們,吃了晚餐后又在繼續做功課然後睡覺,有做工就做工,沒有做工就做功課。

忙到其實有時候兩個星期++才可以和親愛的男友見面,真的很開心很感動他都很體諒我,他從來都沒有埋怨過我很忙,不陪他那些屁話;他都會告訴我 “好吧好吧,你快點去忙吧,我會等你的哦。“ 我的媽呀,他怎麽可以那麽體貼哈哈,所以我都會說上輩子一定是修來很多的福,所以這輩子才有他守候著我 :)

除了會煩惱工作煩惱課業,我發現我剛開始讀Psychology的時候那個熱枕説要當Clinical Psychologist的夢想好像開始有點動搖,我知道我自己會動搖是因爲我找到其他夢想例如 Industrial & Organization Psychologist/ Art Therapist,之所以我會煩惱是因爲我還不清楚自己到底適合和成年人工作還是小孩。我嘗試過咨詢不同的長輩,但是大家都給我不同的答案,有人説成年人,有人説小孩,真的讀了這一課你才會不斷地去evaluate & reflect on yourself。


以前或許會reflect,但是那個intensity絕對沒有比現在誇張。以前我覺得自己很瞭解人類,但是現在我肯定比以前的自己更瞭解人類。讀了這一課,真的發覺 "人類很重要”,when a person is suffering from neurosis, it's not his life is interrupted, even the life of his family members will be impeded,that's why I'm so determined to study psychology as I want to make a change in one's self。

那種滿足感真的很不一樣。

2015年2月26日星期四

THURSDAY.

Today is 26th of February 2015.

感覺真的好久都沒上來寫寫心情,就連到底要怎麽開頭都已經不熟悉了。

近這幾個月覺得自己好强大,大幅度的改變了自己以往習慣的生活方式。

從以前真的不喜歡喝水的我,到了現在到哪裏都愛帶著水瓶,上到車都要帶著1.5l的水壺,每天都强逼自己喝上2l的白開水,是真的意識到水分對自己身體的重要性。

從以前那個喝冷飲的我,變到現在會很拒絕冷飲,會覺得喝了對身體不好,雖然以前也沒有太愛喝,以前在外面吃飯都不太會order冷飲,現在更不用説,現在的自己覺得喝了冷飲會很内疚,喝了Teh tarik之類的就會感覺自己的身體很寒,天氣熱就還是會選擇會喝白開水。外人開來可能覺得這樣好像很沒有Life,會勸我 "Get a life, please!",但是我卻覺得這樣的自己很健康,氣色都會比較好哦!

以前不到3/4點不睡覺,現在? 時間一到9點++,身體就會自動打呵欠,10點半就已經準備睡覺了。新年的時候還是這樣鞭策自己,除了真的沒辦法就還是會1點前睡覺,想一想,這個習慣好像維持快要半年了吧! 很多時候,朋友約出去,我都會說,"你知道的,我10點就要睡覺,不出咯~“ 如果我一夜睡就會覺得自己的皮膚狀態不佳,畢竟自己的皮膚屬於比較容易出問題那類型的吧 :( 就算Dee約我出去,都會大概9點++送我回家,除非那陣子我們真的很少見又或者有時我還是會讓自己任性一下 :P 

以前很愛計較一些小事情,所以總覺得生活好悲,現在已經學會不去計較小事,要放眼去看世界,會覺得其實自己得到的更多。

以前真的真的情感特敏感,容易哭,容易氣,容易煩,可能因爲這樣,朋友和Dee都説我很容易被別人騙,不管是刮刮樂還是什麽,反正就是被騙,現在還是很敏感,但是會學著去釋懷,已經沒有容易氣了 :D 但有些時候真的不要觸碰我的原則,不然我還是會很氣! 至於容易哭&煩,還是改不了呀,有些事情我真的很Happy Go Lucky,但是不是所有事情。很多時候其實會覺得還蠻極端的,但是給我點時間讓我慢慢學會放下 :) 

以前在打扮方面還是有點邋遢,現在在打扮方面還是會花點心思啦,會去找真正適合自己的服裝而不是跟潮流,會比以前更常買布料品質好的衣服,是因爲知道,佛靠金裝,人靠衣裝,還有,

一個女生最重要的是氣質。

開始會不斷讓自己進步,不斷鞭策自己,不斷改變自己的心態,不斷要求更好,是因爲知道都已經20歲人了,還不離開我的Comfort zone的話,那要等到幾時? 

可能真的是慢慢長大了吧,看的東西,想的東西都會和去年不一樣,雖然僅僅相差一年,但是人還是會改變。


2014年12月20日星期六

SATURDAY.

Today is 20th of December 2014.

Counting down to 11 days more and there will be a starting point of another great year. Time flies in a blink of eyes, there are a great number of tragedies but also good times happen from time to time.

Realization of the year?

_Never doubt on your own.
_Grasp tightly any chance that is given to you.
_Attempt to step out from your own comfort zone.
_Keep in mind of the cycle of karma.
_Be open minded to anyone or even strangers.
_Live on your own.
_Look for the best way to live your life.
_Be bold enough to chase your dreams.
_No one should ever stop his or her footsteps for your sake.

I did make an attempt to live on my own, not to depend on anyone even my Dee, family members and even friends, I want to act on something that's no longer same as the past for the sake of growing spiritually. I did receive a good results but there is always sacrifices for that. I have to endure so much and sometimes I even feel like giving up, but there is always one sound lingers on my mind "I shouldn't give up, I have to move on, I want to proud of myself one day"

Unexpectedly, the voice of my mind has been keeping me moving on from times to times.

Somehow, I learnt to enjoy the moment of being alone, there's my very own mean to calm my mind down and to introspect on myself.

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living?

Here comes the seconds for me to realize the beauty of life. I have already left no regret on 2014. Let's welcome the amazing 2015 and let's start to fight and achieve my dreams ;)

To live is to change, and to be perfect is to have changed often. -John Henry Newman

Let me share one of my favourite quotes from one of my idols.







2014年11月29日星期六

SUNDAY.

Today is 30th of November 2014.

(補寫篇):

其實本來這段話我早就在上一個寫好了,但是當時因爲Page出了一點問題,完全刪除完,剛剛才注意到,所以需要補寫 :)

這段話是要感謝我那個真的很白癡的男朋友,謝謝你明明已經那麽累,還特地從Nilai回來幫我慶祝,然後明明隔天還有Assignment要交而且還要上課,但是你還是陪我到12點然後還要駕車回Nilai,謝謝你的生日禮物耶真的,我超級無敵喜歡那個手錶的真的,當初我不捨得買是因爲覺得他好貴,但是沒想到你竟然會買給我當生日禮物! 你以前真的超級不懂浪漫的你懂嗎? 但是現在的你又超級浪漫你懂嗎哈哈? 你駕車的時候很愛抓著我的手,我每次都會拒絕你告訴你將駕車很危險,以前的你會乖乖説好,但是現在的你會直接告訴我說: 以前我駕Manual才要聽你講,現在我都駕Auto了你就不能乖乖給我牽嗎? 你說到將,我還能不就範嗎? 你還很愛駕車的時候不斷撫摸我的頭,玩我的頭髮,你每次都愛説我是你的Kid,所以你把我寵到像鬼樣哈哈。你還會在我睡不着的時候説了童話故事給我聽,因爲你知道我是個沒有童真的人哈哈,不要忘記你答應會說 ‘青蛙王子 & 公主’ 的故事給我聽哦 :D

我當然不會忘記那天當我在Forever 21看中那2件衣服的時候,你知道我不捨得買,明明你自己錢包都要吐血了,但你還是要堅持Sponsor給我,你知道我真的很感動嗎? 你每次都愛說,跟我一起就是快樂! 我想説我跟你在一起就是幸福快樂。在我害怕的時候你會説 ‘不用怕,我在,我會幫你Settle’,在我真的很煩惱的時候,你會想盡辦法哄我開心,你會帶我去吃我想吃的,陪我看我想看的戲。你是那個在我哭的時候能夠成功安撫我的人,不管是以前,還是現在都一樣 :') 每一次看戲,衹要看到有感動的一幕,你都很自動地轉過身看著我,用你的手摸摸我的眼睛看看我有沒有流淚,因爲你知道我是那種超級無敵容易被感動的人。

跟你在一起就是有種很淡定的感覺,跟你在一起就是都不用煩惱,因爲我知道你會決定一切,你還會衹要一見面就會親我然後再給我Compliment,每次離開都會忘了Goodbye Kiss,因爲你知道這是我想要的,以前的你超級無敵粗心一點都體貼,但是現在的你真的比以前進步超級多,每次衹要我贊你體貼,你都説 ‘我真的有很努力把自己變貼心哦! ’ 衹要跟你在一起都會變得很像小孩子,我也不懂爲什麽,可能我和你的相處模式就是愛打愛鬧扮白癡吧哈哈。看回去我們的照片還真的很少照片是正常的厚。你說你很想每晚都抱著我睡覺,因爲我的體溫高,但是我想説,是我喜歡被你抱,因爲那個感覺很踏實,這應該就是傳説中的 ‘安全感’ 吧? :')

謝謝你張偉俊每次都把我看得那麽好,每次都那麽疼我寵我,我愛你。









丟回去4個月前傻逼



SATURDAY.

Today is 29th of November 2014.

那麽快一年就過去了,又來到了母難日還有我的生日! :D
其實今年沒有特地去期待什麽還是要求什麽,或許是因爲考試就在我生日后2天,所以都專注在考試,沒有想太多,但是我想説今年是我19年以來過得最開心,最感動的一次

The story begins with......

生日前一個星期,我的白癡男朋友就約了我説生日當天要帶我出去,還命令我説不准約其他人,隔了幾天,4 in L.O.V.E. 也約我出去,我就説反正都是慶祝生日,那麽我也叫了他們和我還有白癡男朋友一起吃晚餐,反正我們大家都熟到透哈哈!

生日當天等了白癡男朋友40分鐘才可以去吃午餐,我想説我真的要餓死了。他本來還想說遲一點再送我生日禮物,怎知到就破了梗,不打自招地送了給我哈哈! :P 吃了午餐后,就跑去看我們倆都很想看的Penguins of Madagascar,想説這套戲真的很好看很好看! 看了戲,還是照舊去趴趴走哈哈,畢竟芙蓉有點小,不知道要去哪裏 == 然後就去City Park散散步,看看風景,吹吹風,喂喂蚊子 o.o

約了八婆們8點吃晚餐,然後我看時間差不多了就和白癡男朋友meet他們,但是他們又還沒有到,所以就和白癡男朋友喂流浪狗,説到這個話題,我想借這個post提倡這件事,很多時候我們會很疼自己家的狗,但是卻忽略了外邊的狗狗,他們和我們一樣,有著生命,有著血淚,有著感情,如果你認爲自己每個月有剩下那麽一點點的零用錢,你可以買一包狗糧放在車廂,如果路過看見流浪狗,不妨把車子停下來,倒點狗糧讓他們吃,這動作或許你覺得自己做感覺好像幫不到多少,但是其實這看似微不足道的東西,能夠幫助他們維持一天的生命,幫助他們有能力爲自己那一天的生活尋食。有些朋友知道我有喂流浪狗的習慣就建議我說其實帶狗狗們去結紥才是最好的辦法,但是其實我想説,現在19歲的我還沒有那個能力去帶他們去結紥,去付那昂貴的手術費,而我在做的就是在我能力範圍裏面;又或者有人會問我說你自己都要靠父母養你,你憑什麽說去喂流浪狗叻,我的回應是,那些錢都是我自己辛苦省下來,父母也沒有不准我那樣做,所以何樂也不爲呢? 我本身是覺得既然自己有著那個能力,爲什麽不要出點力回饋給這個社會呢? 當自己已經開始幫助狗狗們的時候,不妨嘗試影響身邊的人,讓大家一起幫幫忙,它們的世界會更好 :)



回歸正題,喂了狗狗們,就跑去餐廳裏面等他們,等等等,等了差不多一個小時才見到那群人! 你們真的是要餓死我嗎? 一開門,給我看Kent! Kent還很早打個我祝我生日快樂,唱生日歌給我,還告訴我不能回來幫我慶生因爲有考試,但其實都是騙人 -.- 然後大家雖然真的很久很久沒有見面,但是見回面還是完全不會尷尬,還是一樣打打鬧鬧,跟你們處在一起真的很舒服很開心 (: 然後你們很冷靜的告訴我說要吹蛋糕,但是過後又說很飽去我家吹,好吧,就聽你們的。

一回到,當我準備從車上出去的時候,你們這群惡魔竟然拿著Snow spray來攻擊我! 11點一群人在外面噴來噴去,完全就是吵死我家的狗,隔壁家的狗,對面家的人哈哈! 不到5分鐘,我們6個都變成Frozen了,大家都Let it Go了哈哈! 然後我那個真的很白癡的男朋友,他拿著蠟燭問我 ‘傻婆,你要多少支蠟燭? 2支蠟燭還是你要19支蠟燭? ’ 我想説,有人會那麽三八問生日的人要多少支蠟燭的嗎? == 還真的是給他氣到夠力。吹了蠟燭,矮的又說要沖涼一大堆的,其他人又一直慫恿我去房間,我的男朋友又喊我回房間叫我幫他settle電腦,當我打開房門的時候,我竟然看到滿地的氣球,滿天花板的氣球,這群人真的是騙到我夠透的! 原來他們一早就和我那白癡的男朋友合謀要騙我,原來不是特地要我等,衹是他們那時在裝飾我的房間,原來這群人那麽有我的心啊哈哈!

看見他們打印我們大家以前中二的照片,再看看我們最近拍的照片,真的覺得很感動,原來大家認識了那麽久,認識了10年,認識了6年的都有,感覺我們好像沒有吵過大架也沒有分散過,真的是愛死你們啊! 你們在我生活中真的扮演很重要的角色知道嗎? 你們知道完我一切的秘密,知道我所有的優缺點,知道我最真實的一面哈哈,好啦,謝謝你們,我真的很感動,愛你們親 <3 comment-3--="" nbsp="">




隔天大概6點早上就去KL,一打開房門,看見床頭的裝飾我又覺得甜膩了! 38的Roommates & housemate竟然將裝飾我的床頭哈哈! 然後11點我就跑去Interview,interview回來后Camp的朋友就叫我去meet他們,然後大家就聊天聊天,然後他們就説要去我家,一回到家后,他們又送了我蛋糕還有生日禮物! 你們很38知道嗎? 爲什麽要送我三份蛋糕哈哈哈? 很感激Kok Fung特地從Klang下來送我禮物和蛋糕還有Ah Ku你們兩個的編排,我愛你們哦! :) 原本以爲和Roommate & housemate的戲已經結束了,誰知他們也有下文 O.o 本來坐在飯桌大家好好聊天,誰知,突然唱起生日歌,蛋糕就在身後,正當我要好好欣賞蛋糕的時候,蠟燭竟然滅了媽啊哈哈,謝謝你們真的特地去買蛋糕給我耶,不知不覺都已經一起煮了1年多,因爲有你們的陪伴,我在1301的日子過得真的很有趣哦,謝謝Channn Ah Girl &Phang Ah Ge! 愛你們!







                                      

當然不會忘記父母特地帶了我去吃4 kg的螃蟹! 真的非常好吃,從來沒有吃過印尼來的螃蟹,非常新鮮非常甜美! 每次衹要我有回家,你們都會特地帶我去吃我的最愛,每次我回家不是螃蟹就是大蝦,因爲你們知道我最愛就是海鮮,謝謝你們總會把最愛的都給我。

雖然我已經當面擁抱你們,跟你們道謝,但是我還是要在這裏謝謝你們,沒有人有義務要幫我慶生給我驚喜,但是你們選擇了這樣做,我很感恩有你們,真的真的! 我愛死你們全部了!





你那突然的把我抱起是要嚇死我嗎哈哈?






















我們就是Frozen 2的演員們 :P










你永遠都不會忘記的Goodbye kiss :')










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謝謝你的Gummy bears耶張偉俊哈哈!